As a Certified Health Coach with a specialty in body image, I support women and men in finding freedom from body shame and food fixation. I use a non-diet, pro-self care approach that focuses on cultivating a peaceful relationship to the body and food, while avoiding deprivation, restriction, guilt or shame. From this place, my clients are able to make empowered decisions for their health, feel amazing in their bodies and live the life they desire.
I am extensively trained in the Transformational Coaching Method through Health Coach Institute. I work with private clients, groups and run online courses. Additionally, I lead workshops, classes and participate in panels discussing body positivity and self-love.
In my spare time, you'll find me with my loved ones, cooking a delicious meal, drinking wine, doing yoga and being surrounded by beauty.
What Brought Me Here?
I became a Health Coach after my own weight loss "victory", which I accomplished through restrictive means. I received the constant validation from the outside world that I had finally made it. Others saw me as beautiful and acceptable because of my thin body.
Not only was I loved, I was also needed as people asked me to help them lose weight.
Yet something insidious was happening underneath all of the “love” I was receiving.
I was depriving myself, restricting and controlling the food I ate. I was socially isolated because of my food choices. I was constantly anxious that I would gain weight and lose the love that I had worked so hard to get. My entire sense of self worth rested on my ability to maintain my thin body.
The real healing happened when I had no choice but to look at how much of myself I had lost in seeking validation through the scale, the mirror and others.
I was in the middle of the ocean, on a cruise, hundreds of miles away from my approved list of foods. In front of me were buffets of delicious foods that I had deemed off limits.
I broke down crying everyday. My stomach was twisted in knots of anxiety at the thought of putting these foods in my body.
What if I put on weight? What would my clients and raving weight loss fans think?
There was a giant mirror above our bed in our state room. I looked at it obsessively. Turning to the side and checking my stomach to see if I was putting on weight. Taking note of any noticeable changes.
I knew at this point that something needed to change. That I could no longer go on allowing external factors to decide my self worth.
The healing did not happen overnight. Transformation is a continual process of letting go and it took daily work to be free of the old paradigm that I wasn’t inherently worthy of love.
Since then, my body has settled into the weight that works for me. The acne and digestive issues I had previously struggled with cleared up. I’ve experienced a sense of self love that I never thought possible. Not a prideful love, but a love that allows me to feel complete freedom in my mind, body and spirit. A love that allows me to look in the mirror and say "you are fully worthy and deserving always."
An unconditional, all-consuming, abounding love for myself that goes beyond the mirror, the scale and the compliments.
We live in a world where 91% of women are dissatisfied with their bodies and a growing number of men as well.
I believe the true health revolution will happen when we feel freedom to make choices for our bodies and lives from a place of radical self love and autonomy, instead of guilt and restriction. When we stomp out the belief that there is one ideal body type or expression of health. When we decide to no longer find our value in our reflections but in the content of our character and contributions to the world around us.
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